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'It just hasn't happened yet': stories of not being a biological father
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The lived experiences of men who are childless and want to be biological
parents are rarely heard. This in-depth narrative study focuses on the stories of
five men who want to be biological fathers but who do not have children for
reasons other than male infertility. The aim of this research is to explore and
understand how each man navigates not being a biological father within the
contours of pronatalist constructs which, politically, culturally and socially,
support prevailing assumptions regarding men who are not fathers.
In recogmtlOn of the differently patterned and multi-layered
configurations of the relationships these men have with being childless - and in
order to remain close to the detailed stories of each man - this research is carried
out within a narrative inquiry, anchored in postmodern/poststructural, feminist,
thinking, interwoven with critical reflexive and visual inquiry practices.
To acknowledge the liminal spaces between expectations of fatherhood
and lived experiences of being childless, and to embrace multiple responses to
these narratives, this research is presented in the physical form of a literary
triptych. The creation of the three books making up the thesis - 'stories of
'expert' knowledges', 'stories of not being a biological father' and 'stories of
multiple meanings' - dissipates possible assumptions that one set of stories has
authority over others. The triptych is accompanied by an introductory set of
'gallery notes'.
Through our unstructured research conversations, this group of men
generate rich stories of pronatalist pressures, opportunities to parent, making
choices, looking for the 'right' woman, outsiderness, the impact of a 'moral panic'
around men and children, fantasies of fatherhood and fathering, as well as
revising individual assumptions that becoming a father was inevitable. These
stories are told within the context of relationships, race, history, shifting
identities and engagements with heteronormative expectations.
This research has implications for individuals in relationships with men
who are not fathers and those in professional roles within, for example,
healthcare, counselling, education, social policy making and reproductive
sociology. The narratives arising out of this research encourage a (re)view of
personal/institutional/professional assumptions about childless men who want to
become fathers.
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